Caleb Kaltenbach tells the messy story of growing up with parents involved in the LGBT community and finding Christ in the midst of it. When Caleb came out to his parents as a Christian, they were frustrated, angry, and disappointed. Caleb spent the next several years trying to balance the tension of grace and truth: he wanted to be loving and gracious to his family, but at the same time, he wanted to share the truth that he so passionately believed with them.
Messy Grace is a call for Christians to be known for their love and grace, rather than hate and fear. Caleb calls Christians to embrace their LGBT neighbours, or other communities who are different. We can accept and love others without approving of their decisions or the way that they live their life; something that Christians need to be constantly reminded of. Caleb reminds us that LGBT and other communities that we disagree with aren’t the enemy – they are individuals that God has created in His image. While many Christians look at sinful patterns and condemn these communities, we need to recognize that we also were sinners and apart from God’s sovereign grace in our lives, we would be no different from them. This should cause us to love them even more, rather than fear or hate.
This is a book that Christians need to read. Caleb’s testimony is compelling, and his challenge to Christians to be more loving is convicting.
Kaltenbach, Caleb. Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others without Sacrificing Conviction. Colorado Springs: WaterBrook, 2015. 224pp. Paperback, $14.99.
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